Love yourself

Wild Guide: How to Fall in Love with Yourself

Wild Guide Rule #9


Love yourself



Shortly after my 16th birthday, in my junior year in high school, I started battling depression. Unbeknownst to most people I know, my mind was almost a daily battle ground for deciding whether I wanted to be here or not. Things got markedly better and then life would be life and I would go through another depressive slump. This seesaw was causing more chaos in my life than anything else and I was growing very tired of doing a balancing act in the whirlwinds. I’ve mentioned some of the practices and tools that helped me finally put an end to my depression before, but one of my favourite, most life-changing tools is what I want to share with you today. 

love yourself

It’s a simple, discreet, easy to use tool because it only involves you + a mirror. In the morning, before getting on my phone + checking emails, I mentally log all the things I’m grateful for in my life, meditate, and then I stand in front on my mirror, and say the following three things:

  • I love you.
  • I am proud of you.
  • I am worthy of having the life I want.


The first time I did it, I laughed so hard because it felt so stupid, silly and ridiculous. It was a week before I could say it without smirking. It was a month before I could say it without internally rolling my eyes. 4 months later and I was sobbing uncontrolably. I couldn’t bring myself to say it again for another month after that. After getting annoyed with myself for chickening out on something that was clearly maj, I started back up again and made myself say it everyday for a year straight. I cannot express to you enough how much has changed for me + to me, because of this simple daily tool.

It doesn’t matter if you think you don’t need it, if you’ve never felt depressed, you already love yourself, or if you feel perfectly on top of your life. I challenge you to try using this tool. Trust me- everyone can improve with this tool. I challenge you to try it for at least 30 days and see what results you find for yourself. I didn’t really think anything of it until 4 months in and my world changed because of it. My depression ended in my mid-twenties, after I found peace + balance through meditating. I was sure I was feeling as good as I possibly could in life because I was happy, even if somewhat stressed, but I felt ‘normal’. Adding this little secret weapon made me feel confident and wholly self-loved, which felt like the missing piece I couldn’t put my finger on. Being able to love yourself is the most important thing in life. A great litmus test is being able to say I love you to yourself and feel comfortable and confident declaring that love. Afterall, in the fabulous words of RuPaul- ‘If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

Can I get an Amen?


PS- If you’re battling depression or feeling overwhelmed, there is no shame in seeking help. Please feel free to call the National Suicide Prevention at 1-800-273-8255.



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